re:I know girls who have everything – yichhus, looks, and money, not to mention a sterling personality – who are still on the market. I can only assume that you mean that maybe there are girls who are still around due to maybe not having enough money, etc., so any such chisaron makes them less desirable on the meat market. Still a very distasteful way of phrasing things. Don’t talk about bnos Yisrael this way.
tzippi:
I call a peach a peach, and a plum a plum.
Some of the finest girls are “less desirable” in the Shidduch Market by NO fault of theirs, strictly due to superficial things usually, like looks, money and the absence of Yichus, etc. In my eyes most of these girls are the BEST ON THE MARKET, but unfortunately are being rejected again and again, by the so called “best” boys out there, such as best learners, because by and large guys in their low twenties judge girls by superficial criteria.
If the guys would be encouraged to date closer in age, when their supply of similar age dates runs out, they’d be less inclined to date much younger girls, because of the tabu that would go with it. So with the present set-up the older “less desirabale” girls are passed over and they look among the pool of much younger girls.
Again, “less desirable” doesn’t equal less quality. QUITE THE CONTRARY! In my eyes, it
means the “desirable” boys are choosing girls by very superficial criteria!
No one that reds Shidduchim will even attempt to deny that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!