SJSinNYC: “Are the wrong men and women getting married right now”.
I’m quite sure what u mean. If are referring to “bas ploni to ploni”; the arizal writes that is only till the boy is 18. I would prefer to stay away from a haskafa discussion since it will yield no practical suggestions to alleviating the age gap crises. But try this one on for size.
WHO IS THE PLONI for the hundreds and hundreds of girls with no one to marry. Clearly those that want to believe every one marries their ploni will have to admit that many “ploni” didn’t marry their “bas ploni”.
Suggestion Number 1. Many many girls will be coming home from seminary this month. How about NOT rushing to redd them shidduchim to all the 22-23 year old guys?