AZ, what I mean by are the wrong people getting married is that by saying to set up people in closer age ranges, you are sort of saying those marrying outside those ranges are marrying the wrong people.
Maybe not everyone gets married? I am not willing to marry the wrong person (just because someone is my age) so that someone else can get married. [hypothetically – I am already married]
lkwdfellow – there is a difference in 6 months. Those six months can be the difference between a man being ready for marriage or not being ready. Why would you rush ANYONE to get married? My husband had quite a few friends who waited until 26+ to start dating. They just werent ready.
One friend of mine married a guy who was adament about marrying an “older” woman. He didnt want to marry a girl fresh out of seminary. He was 25 at the time and preferred someone who was already doing her masters or starting her career. The shadchan who set them up didnt tell him that my friend was 19 and fresh out of seminary. But guess what – it was the right match and they ended up married. Why? because AGE was not the reason that held him back from 19 year olds – it was maturity. [please note: I do not condone lying in shidduchim]