SJSinNYC:
“AZOI.IS, you write “NONSENSE!!!!” a lot without backing it up at all…..Most of the people I know who started dating younger because they wanted to, not because their friends were”.
A lot of people want a lot of things…..do we all get what we want…do we learn to live without everything we want….that’s one of life’s main challenges.
“You ask what the grave harm in marrying a little later is? The harm is that she wants to get married and is being delayed for someone else. That isn’t fair to her. Its not up to you to decide when she should get married, but you are trying to control her life for someone elses”
It’s not up to me, RIGHT. But it is the responsibility of our Gedolim to help ease the pain of many.
“A lot of gedolim are behind the takanas against big weddings – but of course there are exceptions (large families and a whole bunch of other things). It will force the shidduch scene to become even more elitist because the “best” girls will still get dates young. And what Rav is going to come out and say that we should delay women getting married?”
Even if Takanas are effective to some degree, then goals were accomplished. Imagine how Simchas would look with no Takanas.
“I never said the pain for a woman who hasn’t found her match isn’t great. I know quite a few older, single women. But, that doesn’t mean you should call them an agunah. Or an almanah or any other term that has HALACHIC ramifications. Lehavdil, its like calling a Church/mosque a shul because its a “house of worship….”
Why the focus on what the Tzoroh is called? Give it whatever new name you like. The many forms of Cancer and Leukemia R”L have similarties and differences. They’re all serious!