A lot of people want a lot of things…..do we all get what we want…do we learn to live without everything we want….that’s one of life’s main challenges.
Um, did you read what you wrote? That is true the other way around as well. Some older women will not get married because the men married younger women. Its a challenge. Did you even read my point to try to understand it? It doesnt seem like it…
Even if Takanas are effective to some degree, then goals were accomplished. Imagine how Simchas would look with no Takanas.
No, the goal was not accomplished. I have been to many lavish, ridiculous affairs where gedolim attended. Why? Because the takanas just reinforced that the rich can get away these things because the rabbonim tolerate it. Which is the same way the shidduch system is going to go – its going to become even MORE elitist than it already is. Try thinking about this before you answer, and you may understand my point better.
Why the focus on what the Tzoroh is called? Give it whatever new name you like. The many forms of Cancer and Leukemia R”L have similarties and differences. They’re all serious!
I wasn’t the one who starting labeling single older women. Its an important distinction. An agunah is not married and not single. Its a terrible afliction and much worse than being an older, single woman. I don’t need to label the issue of having a gluttony of older single women, but its a slap in the face to the poor suffering agunahs to call a woman who CAN HALACHICALLY GET MARRIED an agunah. It shows a lack of respect to their poor plight.
Oomis, I’m with you 100% on the “best” thing. We once were hosting guests for Shabbos for a Bar Mitzvah of our neighbors. Friday night, we were sitting around talking to the guests while the men were in shul. The woman was telling us about her son and at some point (very seriously) told us he was “the best boy in Lakewood.” I have to say its a miracle we didn’t all burst out laughing. It was very hard.
lkwdfellow – I have no problem admitting when I am wrong. I was just talking about the anecdotal evidence that I’ve seen. I wasn’t quoting it as Toras Moshe M’Sinai 🙂