AZ you have some chutzpa pulling bochrim out of Eretz Yisroel! Look at what R’ Elchonon, R’ Ahron Kotler and countless other gedolim write about Toras Eretz Yisroel.
You have some chutzpa making a blanket statement about the torah of thousands of people because of the few people you spoke with. And yes, I have spoken with Roshei Yeshivos (ones with Emes Daas Torah) and they do NOT want people to lose out on Torah.
Ben Azai went as far as to not get married because he knew it would adversely affect his learning. You want to adversely affect learning in the name of a shidduch.
Machlokes AZ and Ben Azai, I wonder who we should choose to learn from?