PT: “And, no, there gedolim don’t by the “there are more girls” argument”
No claims there are more girls in the world. Simply more girls on shidduch island, because there ARE more 19 year old girls than 22 year old boys. Without getting into specific names I’ll put one out who I think we will all agree on. Rav Shteinman Shlita is very well aware of the gravity of the situation and clearly understands the dynamics of the age gap and how that is causing the problem.
He reffered to the shidduch situation as “one of the greatest tzaros facing klal yisroe:
I’m not sure which gadol you have spoken to that was explained the facts and still disagreed. kind of hared to believe since the two facts are obvious
1. Population growth
2. girls start dating at 19 boys at 22
As one roshe Yeshiva recently commented to me. It’s NOT rocket science.
Boys that are learning really well (like Ben Azai) in EY kol hakavod stay. What can be changed is the style that EVERYONE stays for the same amount of time even though MANY aren’t being productiove and are just doing what everyone is doing.
To the oilam: If I gave every girls a million dollar dowry, or better yet if I had a magic buttono and took finances out of the shidduch equation we would not accomplish one iota vis a vis the crisis.
The Reason?
If we have 100 girls on the island and 80 boys, there is no way that more than 80 girls can get married. I for one don’t care it the leftover girls are rich, pretty, yichus, etc. or Not. We need to make the difficult decisions that will enable all the girls to have a chance to get married.
It is true that subjective factors play a role in determining WHICH girls have a better chance at geting married. NOT how many. Therefor to address that issue is MISSING the point.