“AZ: I am happy to hear you have had the opportunity in to come in contact with many Gedolim. Did you discuss your shiduch initiative with any of them? Did they agree? If yes, why haven’t we heard these Gedolim taking the initiative on these suggestions. The Lkwd RYs could easily encourage bachurim to go out younger if they chose, for example by waiving the “freezer rule” to one who goes out with an older girl”.
PM:
It takes time. They decide when they’re ready.
This is why I feel so strongly about this issue. Someone I know hosts a Tehillim group for mostly “older” girls, some younger, some women. After Tehillim they often get into Shidduchim discussions. They talk about how they don’t have dates, yet aren’t comfortable going out with either Chassidish boys or Modern Orthodox boys, often suggested to them. I am quite sure the situation is the same in Manytowns, USA. They are all excellent girls in every way. As someone involved in Shidduchim, I am very well aware of it from other sources as well.
My knowing that 19 year old girls are on their way home from Seminary, will be vying for the same boys as these girls, when there’s a huge scarcity already, disturbs me terribly.
Anyone here in the CR with any way to help girls like these, please don’t hesitate. Please come forward. This is one of the challenges of this Dor. Al Taamod Al Dam Rayacha.
Hashem please listen to their anguish.