If boys that are 19-20 are being supported, learning, minimal responsibilities, why do they need to be mature to get married? (not pushing the idea, but I feel is a legit. question)
WHY?????? Because most 19-20 year olds and especially the males, do not yet grasp understand the LIFELONG ramifications of marriage, intimate relationships, parenting, budgeting (at some future point), paying bills when mama and papa are no longer able to continue to support them, and especially how to live with another person who is basically a stranger to them. How many 19 year olds feel the same way about life, their needs, tastes, ability to make a well-thought out decision, when they are five years older? Yes there are some mature 19 year olds. My sister was one of them and has been happily married for over 3 decades. But she was also educated and a little more worldly than the type of girl who gets out of seminary at the same age. A 19 year old boy is still a child in so many ways. Sitting in Yeshivah does not necessarily mature a boy, though it does help him to grow in Torah. I have seen many bochurim who acted like young teenagers and not more like young men ready to assume the achrayus of marriage. Do you think that just because someone is financially supported, that is all he needs in order to be ready to get married? I feel just the opposite is true.