With so many people talking about how its easier to be a “good girl than a good guy”, I have some points to ponder. everyone has a different take on the definition “good” so we should be careful what we say, just like in other “types-yeshivish, chareidi, MO ect”
-Each person/gender has their own role, tafkid, “job requirements” ect. They are each made for that one. Men have a chiuv to daven on time, women dont. But women must take care of the family, make dinner, raise the kids, and many times work too. Men go to their office/B”M (go to earner/learner for that debate) and dont come home until dinner time. Women cant be responsible to daven because who knows what the kids will be up to? so zemanim cant be a defining characteristic for a “good girl/guy”. When comparing two people of the same gender, now that is a different story.
-what would be a “plus” for one person may be a detriment for another…
– many times there is more supervision for the girls, so they “have to be good”. Seminary in E”Y vs B”M. mother of the guys know what girls are like, so they want perfect girls for their sons.