Reply To: The AZ thread – discuss the shidduch “age gap”

GAW: you raise an excellent point about the status quo. My response is simply that I don’t believe it is right to challenge the status quo until two prerequisites have been met:

1) We have determined that leaving the status quo is perpetuating a broken system

2) We have determined exactly what makes the system broken so that we can fix the problem instead of creating a new one

#1 is undoubtedly met in the tiny, tiny world of yeshivish shidduch dating. However, it is not a microcosm, nor is it a closed system. Both of those facts are important. And in the Jewish world at large this problem is unheard of. The problem belongs only to this concentrated group and it may even have something to do with migration in and out of the system.

#2 is not even close to being met.

Most of the people who buy in to this idea do so out of negius (personal fear).