Only difference is the pressure for a girl to be married at 21- 22 isn’t as great in those crowds, so it’s not that hard-hitting.”
I don’t know that I really agree with that statement. My girls, who are older than that, felt the pressure at 20 and 21, and they are NOT Beis Yaakov types. I would describe them as machmir modern or very modern yeshivish. They felt the pressure as soon as they left high school. Friends of theirs got married left and right in the next couple of years, and though they still have friends like themselves who have not yet been married, they have been feeling the pinch for all that time.
I don’t think a purpose is really served by castigating posters on this thread. The bottom line is one on which we ALL can agree – we want to see all our Jewish children happily married to their proper zivugim and building batim ne’emanim b’Yisroel. We may not agree on the best way to achieve that goal, or even the reasons for that goal not being easily met. But we can agree that it is a real problem today, and we would like to see it reach its conclusion ASAP.