For these parents, as much as they want to help support their kids, they simply CAN’T. There are a lot of us out there.
I concur, I was one of those parents, and we JUST missed the eligibility cut off point for TAP and PELL grants. We would not play the financial games that other families of our same means played in order to be eligible and get those grants. It was always a struggle to make ends meet, and under no circumstances could I help support my married kids, except by what I am doing now and that is babysitting my granddaughter so they do not have to hire someone to do so. I have them over for a lot of meals, too, but that is my pleasure, and they are wonderful kids who appreciate every tiny thing we do for them as if it were a gevaltig BIG thing.