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Fertility:
According to Dr. Bradley (Husband Coached Childbirth – its an awesome book), the ideal time for a woman to have a child (according to her body requirements) is AGE 14. Granted, that is not always feasible, but the longer you wait, the more potential fertility and medical issues there are.
Infertility is diagnosed after a year of a couple unsuccessfully trying to concieve. This is an important point to remember – whenever a couple gets married, its about a year before they can even start trying to fix a problem if they have one.
There are a few types of infertility – there is mikvah infertility – the process where following taharat hamishpacha causes a woman to be a niddah still on her most fertile days. This is one of the easiest types to fix.
Some fertility issues require surgery for either man or woman. This often takes a few more months to schedule surgery and recover.
Some fertility issues require medications.
Some fertility issues require in vitro fertilization. This is a HARD, long process. Women have to take a lot of uncomfortable shots and then have the problem of possibly becoming pregnant with the wrong child. Plus, its extremely expensive. The rate of success with IVF drops off a lot after AGE 25!
AZ thinks its ok to ask women to give up her most successful child bearing years for someone else.
AZOIS thinks its easy to have children.