oomis- That’s exactly my question with the shtreimel shouldn’t i let things go a bit and let them see first if the boy is interesting to them before they make such a statement? it’s like we’re talking a satmar family with a litvish one we’re talking very similar backgrounds semi-litvish-chasidish. But then again after such a statement i’m scared i’ll upset them when the boy refuses to let go of his shtreimel. Isn’t there alot of shadchanim that work that way they don’t tell all the details in the beginning?
I would not go forward with this unless I knew the boy’s position on the shtreimel was that he does not wear one. Even if he said he does but he won’t if that makes a difference, he may change his mind afterwards, the first time they have a disagreement, and then use it as a means of a power play. Believe people when they say something is important to them. Another girl will LOVE his shtreimel. Ya win some ya lose some.