SJS: I’m not making sure they get married, we’re discussing dating. If after meeting the person still insists that 21 is not 22 then fine. However, I think that a shaddchan can decide some issues are worth investigating whether or not they are paper issues or not (by lying and getting the couple to go out).
JayMatt, you come across as a wonderful person. But to me this is dispicable. If a shadchan lied to me once and it didnt work out, how could I ever trust them again? Their word means nothing then.
It shouldnt be up to the shadchan to decide what seems unimportant enough to lie about. I think its rude and obnoxious and a solid relationship shouldnt start out with a lie.