SJSinNYC,
Why are you so obssessed with cash businesses…?
Anyway, who said that some people are obsessed with one chumra and forget about all else. That may be true for some people, but what has that got to do with the subject?? If Tznius is being discussed, other mitzvos don’t necessarily have to be mentioned! If you tell someone that it is wrong to have a cash business and they answer you, yeah, but some people are so busy not having cash businesses, they forget about Tznius.. You will think they fell off the wall. what has one got to do with an other.
Also, what people are failing to realize is that there is an other aspect to some of these “guidelines” that are not necessarily Tznius per se. We are told to be different than the goyim. So following their styles and going after all the silly trends, is wrong even if it can be defined as Tznius. Of course some will argue, so does that mean that we can’t wear button down shirts, stockings etc. because after all it started by the goyim? Obviously it is not so clear cut. Some will say that denim is OUT and some think that denim is fine. There are some things though that if you have a sensitivity for, it should really be obvious. But of course there will always be different definitions.
Also, as long as people aren’t causing tzaar to others, it is sometimes a good thing for someone to feel very strongly about the things they do. If everyone would be milchig about yiddishkeit, where would we be?