mariner has it spot on. Of course, parents know more, and understand about marriage, but they are no more objective than their children. Unfortunately, many parents conflate “best for my child” with “my own unfulfilled dreams”. True, if a parent sees certain red flags that the child is blind to, they must step in and prevent disaster. But the girl’s dress size, or the boy’s only-average learning capabilities are not red flags requiring such intervention. If you don’t think your child is capable of making a mature decision about who to marry, then they are not ready for shidduchim, period.
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