Well mariner,
It may have made your experiences more pleasant while you did the work not your parents, but has it worked in getting you married?? If so then great but i not maybe you should have your parents more involved. The truth is thougit really depens on the age situation back ground of each person looking for a shidduch and no blanket can be stated if parents should or shouldnt take the lead.
Parents need to be their to guide their child in shidduchim but again they must not have alterior motives and must be clear on wht their son/ daughter needs and be there to help them understand their dating experiences. Sometimes parents just get a good or bad feeling abt it all and many times there is mamashus to this but not always so again… it all has to be balanced out. Thats just about e/t in life… it gotta be balanced out with a few exceptions of course