lesschumras-
That the mother stayed in an abusive relationship is her perogative- the circumstances may have been beyond her controll. that said:
1 – children with messed up family situations do go on to maintain successful marriages
2- maybe such a mother will be able to pick up on red flags -more so than a lay person (the child, another adult etc.)
3-in such situations professional help is a must.That doesnt mean that all of a sudden a child’s mother has zero judgement when it comes time to shidduchim!
so yes, i do think that such a woman’s judgement is valuable for her 18 year old.