Brooklyn19, On the onset I sympathize with u that u had a broken engagement, may u find ur bashert soon. If u read my previous comments, i noted that obviously parents do not have the final say. Once the girl and boy meet they have to decide if they want to get engaged. However remeber that since ur parents love you and have ur best intrest in mind, I do encourage MAXIMUM parental guidence in WHO u will meet, and once u meet, i encourage discussing the conversations with a parent (or mentor, teacher…). It’s wrong to say “Our conversations were too private.” U’ll have ur private conversations after u get married, and those no one will ever ask u to share. While u r dating and getting ready to make life’s biggest decision, u need advice, guidence from someone experienced. A single bachur once told my husband that all of his friends ask him advice while they are dating. I thought that was outragious! Dating is a private thing u discuss with someone experienced, married etc.. To go and say “I got my friends’ Haskama so now i am ok…” The guidence u should be getting is preferably from ur parents, if they are discfunctional etc. then find a trusted adult.
As a side point about speaking to a Rav:
1) Do u realize that a Rav has no alterior motive when he tells u to go ahead with or to stay in a shidduch? I know of plenty of Rabanim ,teachers that have told girls “Based on what u r saying, this is not for u.”
2) My close friend was once having a Shalom Bayis issue that I was helping her through. At one point I suggested she present a certain delicate question (not halachic) to a Rav. She agreed. But I prewarned her, once u decide to speak to a rav, u have to follow his Psak. If u are not ready to listen to him then u r not ready to speak to a Rav.