i’m having a little hard time with this one. maybe someone can set me straight. we are a pretty close family. we all have ups and downs and want to be there for each other. i have one sibling that EVERYTHING is a secret by her. this is going on for years and we have accepted it. but WHY? i’m not talking about very pesonal stuff like the kids dating etc. i can understand that. but when she gets something new in the house, she NEVER, EVER, will tell anyone. why? we really would be so happy for her, but nada. we were speaking quite often at one point. i know she was going through a hard time with one of her children. she ended up sending this child to the states to learn and thank g-d she is doing quite well. but WHY couldn’t she call me and tell me? i was davening for this child. i was worried about this sibling also, how she was doing etc. but i found out cause my MOTHER told me. my sibling couldn’t call? she didn’t know i wasn’t worried. till this day she hasn’t said anything to us. why does this have to be a secret? i know what you are all saying now — i’m probably a yenta and i bud into everyone’s buisness. but really, i’m a quiet person by nature and i really don’t speak about this topic with my other siblings. it just hurts. i accept her for who she is , but it hurts and maybe someone can help me here.if i didn’t care about this sibling, it probably wouldn’t matter to me. but i do care and i just wanted to be there for her. now youre gonna say- ok, so she doesn’t need you. and that hurts.that is where i think my hurt comes in. the thought that she doesn’t need me. sorry guys, if i made this too heavy for you. just my thoughts and thanx for listening.
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