We are not overly private pple, and in my family things can usually be kept a secret even when the children know. But, when it came to buying a house though $$$ was tight, we had saved for years thus able to afford it. So this we kept a big secret not wanting anyone to know, thinking we have spare money that we really didn’t. We closed, and it was a big secret. We had in mind to rent the apt for a bit to help with mortgage. we were lucky to find a couple that we didnt know and felt comfortable that no one would find out. GUESS WHAT? It didnt take more than a week until I got at least 3 phone calls from friends congratulating me. My own married children didnt know, and were quite shocked (one daughter heard from her father in law, how did he know?!)!
Moral of the story – keeping a secret is very very tough. As soon as outsiders get involved in any secret, be prepared to tell those close to u. THEY ARE GOING TO FIND OUT FROM SOMEONE ELSE AND CHANCES ARE THEY WILL BE HURT!