Joseph:
Yes, he said we should. If I had a safek, I would ask a specific question (such as the sick child).
B”H, in America, there is MOFES, so all “basic needs” (except tuition, which is arguable) are covered by the government, to the most part. I do not plan on laying out the Ramabam or Shulchan Aruch on Tzedoka here (or any personal information), but the short answer is yes to all three.
You are avoiding the question.
Yes or No. Should someone’s wife work in order to help pay tuition?