Joseph:
Obviously you are. Please stop making assumptions based on your own feelings (WE ARE NOT REFORM JEWS!) and ask a Rav (I’m not saying you can, just that a Shaila should be asked) if you can embarass a parent so that they should take care of their children (or read the Rambam and then ask). Also please define an “Ani” (which is part of your confusion). That is a Halachic term with Halachic Nafki Miena.
Did you speak to your rav about what you need to give up in order to pay tuition?