1) I use money, because the thought of picking up a chicken and twirling it around my head, makes me queasy. I also cannot stand the idea that the chicken is getting shechted specifically because of me. (I know, that sounds really dumb).
2)Why would someone make fun of anyone who does not eat gebrochts? Personally, I do eat them, but I totally respect my friends who don’t, and when they come to eat by me on Pesach, there are no gebrochts on my table. I may not agree with someone’s particular minhag, nor they with mine, but we can respect each other’s avodas Ha-Shem.