but I can’t see any self respecting man ask a rav a shailah and then walk away.
i am a self respecting man, and fairly knowledgable in Halacha. I RARELY ask my Posek for his source and would never debate with him. i ask a shaila then i walk away, as generally does everyone that i know (who are all self-respecting men). I have great respect and awe of him and feel like a worm in his presence. He is not my Chavrusa and certainly not my buddy. His time is extremely valuable and in demand. I may have gaivah, but not enough to demand he spend his time to satisfy my intellectual curiousity. I can grow in Torah from him by attending his shiurim and asking questions respectfully there when he asks if anyone has a question.