Hi mepal,
The age of the “complimentee” (does the CR allow me to make up words?) We’ll let it pass just this one time…80 may also count. Perhaps a married 28 year old is in a different stage than a teenager, and comments need to be tailored to situation, complimenter and complimentee personalities, etc.
Either way, it is wonderful to see a thread about tznius, and reflects well on every contributor to this thread.
NYMom,
I agree that a variety of approaches may be helpful. A thread in a general forum is very appropriate, and not mutually exclusive with creating a climate of “Tznius is IN”, one person at a time. However, you need to be prepared to address or ignore (as you see fit) responses from individuals who do not yet appreciate the need to work on tznius as a Klal. By it’s very nature, an open forum is very “open”, and a sincere discussion initiated on improving tznius can easily segue into “this is not an important issue to work on”. If you can maintain the focus of the discussion despite this, while keeping the tenor pleasant and goal-oriented, more power to you.