“Since clothes send a message, what message is she sending to the people around her when she goes around in a short/tight skirt? Would you like to answer this?”
I am totally against the wearing of short skirts for reasons of tznius, but the fact is that the message she is sending is that she is dressing like everyone else in the secular world. It is ONLY the people who dress in longer more subjectively modest clothing, who notice her. EVERYONE ELSE IS USED TO IT!!! And don’t misunderstand, I am not advocating that short skirts are proper to be worn, but you asked what message she is sending. To the world at large she is sending no special message whatsoever. That may say something negative about the world at large for being so desensitized, but it is what it is. And btw, in the 1950s FRUM women went to the beach in bathing suits, wore pants, sleeveless dresses didn’t cover their hair except in Shul and when they bensched licht,and sang in mixed groups with men (Bnei Akiva groups, for example) and virtually no one would ever have considered those Shomrot Shabbos, kosher, mikvah attending women to be untzniusdig. We live in a different time now, when these things have become a real lifestyle change for how we define frumkeit and tznius. I am not saying in any way, shape, or form that the Torah standards ever changed, only that there was a different type of acceptance fifty years ago. And in general, there was MUCH less sinas chinam back then, too. No one ever told the chassidish kids on my block not to play with me or eat in my home, just because my mother didn’t cover her hair all the time. Maybe it was not a perfect world from a halachic standpoint, but there was much good in it that we can learn from today.