oomis: don’t take everything so personally
Did you think I took your response personally? There was nothing offensive in your remarks and I was just commenting on my own neighborhood vaad, which is very stringent, sometimes to a fault, yet an individual rov may be even more lenient than the Vaad, but nonetheless hold by the Vaad’s p’sak.
BTW, there are times when donuts are served to KIDS for dessert at a simcha (though clearly not from DD)…