i dont understand something- why does a torah father have to be someone who is in kollel? my husband works to provide our b”h growing family with everything we need. i work to keep my sanity. i stayed home for a while after our first child was born, but i quickly found out that i needed a break and i needed to socialize a little bit with people besides moms. my husband learns most mornings and every night. is our home any less of a torah home than a that of someone who is learning full time?
i know it says talmud torah k’neged kulam, but who said talmud torah means all day?