i find it very interesting that those women who choose to work, for whatever the reason, are always berated, yet it is expected that a man should be able to sit and learn all day. how is this family supposed to survive if the father is in kollel and the mother is at home? things were very different in past generations.
to those who feel that it is a womans job to be at home: do you REALLY think that it doesnt pain us to be away from our children and have other people taking care of them and teaching them? i am practically in tears every day when i am on my way to work. however, i know for myself that if i were to be a stay at home mom i would literally go insane. i am not saying this callously, i am saying this from experience.
how can you tell someone who is already struggling that she is doing the wrong thing? it is hard enough for us to go out and do what we do, for whatever reason we do it. please dont add to that by judging us for the choice we made. and for all you know, those women who are working asked a shaila and were TOLD (like i was) that they should go out and work.