Reply To: Shidduchin as a Business

Jothar:

“Go ahead, be a shadchan for free. We’d love to hear about your experiences. “

If I do want to become a shadchan I would love it and have great experiences and won’t ask for a cent. The reason for this is that I would set up only people I KNOW with other people I KNOW (and yes, I know boys and girls, shocking (sarcasm), but that is normal in the real world (outside the box that yeshivish people lock themselves into))!

It would be a complete chessed. None of this “boy girl, perfect match” that is being done now. I would know the individuals, their personalities, their dislikes and likes, and their history. I won’t deal with strangers that I would meet for 30 seconds (just a little exaggeration, and not by much)and try to set them up with a list.

I doubt that I would exceed most of the time, but I definitely would be on the mark for each time I set friends up. Not only that, my friends know that I have THEIR best interest in mind, and I’m not trying to do it to gain fame as “the shadchan with the most marriages this year” or the “shadchan with the best boys and girls”. As it was noted in the 1980 Olympics, the coach for the U.S. hockey team when asked about his team he said “I’m not looking for the best players. I’m looking for the right ones.”