Jothar, brilliant post! Thanks.
jphone, Bachurim who enter a Yeshivah and dont necessarily look for a relationship with the Rosh (or Roshei, depending on the yeshiva) OUGHT to be in a Yeshivah where they DO look for a relationship with the Rosh/ei Yeshivah!!!
It’s crucial in the impressionable high teens and low twenties to bond with a Rosh Yeshivah. Those years spent without it, are a sad lost opportunity, never compensated for.
To those who will respond that boys with strong charachter are already stable and dont need such a relationship, my reply would be Al Taamin B’Atzmecha….