Think about it. The last shidduch you heard mentioned, was the bachur “learning in lakewood, after learning 2 years in the mir and several years in some other yeshiva” or “he is a wonderful bachur a close talmid of “r’ zundel shlita”.
The yeshiva is basicly a status symbol for a shidduch. The fault lies with noone except a dor that places its priorities on fitting a mold instead of people as individuals.
The mold says that you finish mesivta, go to e”y for a few years, with several acceptable names on that list (mir, brisk perhaps) then on to bmg. Once married, stay and learn in bmg. Kesher with a rebbe? Which one did you develop this kesher with? The one who knows you as a mesivta bachur, the one who knows you as a 20 yr old or the one who knows you as a 24 yr old?