cholentkugelkishke:
“what they have done is publicize their Da’as Torah that shadchonim should attempt to make shidduchim amongst couples close in age. You don’t agree with them & feel that you can tell 60 Rabbonim what they can and can’t say. “
I don’t feel I can tell anyone anything.I beleive that everyone should whatever they want and learn from the mistakes made. It is called growing up. In yeshivish society, they don’t believe in maturing. And they like to have someone to blame all their failures. In my opinion, I think that the proclamation would do more harm than good. But that is just my opinion.
And, you still have not answered my question: If your Rav advises you to do something would you listen to him or not? Why do you think my “moshol” is bad? I was always of the impression if a Rav advises his constituents then they should listen, isn’t that the point of a Rav? To guide?