Reply To: Tu B�Av – Put the Girls in the Freezer

I posted the above letter because it offers an opinion how to solve the number problem in Shidduchim. Preparation for marriage, sholom bayis, chinuch, and middos are also important. But, they have nothing to do with numbers.

Back on this topic – I’d love to hear eitzos as to how we can try to implement the idea of having the girls wait till 20 to date. 100% compliance would be wonderful, but highly unlikely. My suggestion would be – have the Roshei Yeshivos set the example. You would be surprised to find out that many already do this on their own. I redd a Chshuve R”Y a shidduch with a top Bochur, and the R”y told me he isn’t letting his daughter date till she’s 20. He wants her to wait. So, if the R”Y would publicly state that they personally are holding their daughters from dating till they are 20 – the “hamoin am” might follow suit…..