Reply To: Tu B�Av – Put the Girls in the Freezer

Being part of a shidduch group (and has children married B”H)has opened my eyes to some very sad truths:

1.Parents look for family. They need to consider their childs happiness, and remember they are not marrying the in law family.

The two families ARE marrying each other in most cases, and the parents of the couple will share a crucial relationship with the couple. The happiness of the couple IS highly dependent on this relationship, and it is very important to be evaluated along with other important factors…80

2. Money is great but not the be all and end all. Parents must know especially in these difficult times that money can be lost easily. More important Money cannot buy happiness however hard we try.

3.Age is no disadvantage (Boy being younger than the girl)

4.Dress points are not important e.g. Does the boy wear slip on shoes or laces!

5. Height of boy and girl within reason (A shidduch we worked on was rejected because boy was inch smaller than girl 51/2foot)

It is because of these and many other unreasonable requests there is such a difficulty with shidduchim.

What happened with middos and for boys to commit to a regular shuir??