Tzippi:
Those girls should not wait. The shadchanim should focus on the slightly older girls. For starters it would be very nice if shadchanim put the new sem girls on the backburner unteill chanuka pesacach. If we get there we can talk further.
MM: I didn’t say the R”Y are maskim to what was said in the Sefer. I simpyl stated what you have now realized that the sefer doesn’t contradict what was written in the letter.
FYI Rav Brog (Rav Millers Zatzals son in law) was asked what Rav Miller would say in light of his position and the present shidduch situation. And he said “Being that Rav Miller is not here and being that he was unaware of the new information it is impossible to know what he would say.” “it is highly unlikely that he would disagree with that which 70 R”Y signed on to”.
THEREFOR I would humbly suggest not basing a firm position on something written in a sefer that we don’t even know what the author himself Zatzal would say under the present circumstances.
The R”Y advising the NASI Project are signed on the letter, and they are constantly looking for more ways to encourage close in age shiddcuhim. The R”Y are chosuve enough that they don’t need to approach 70 other R”Y before following through and exploring their suggestions. (perhaps to get them implemented it will take 70 R”Y- time will tell).
The people who need to know who the R”Y are – DO know, Ask Rav Shmuel Kamenetzky Shlita what he thinks of the R”Y behind NASI. Frankly the CR is NOT on a need to know basis, to bad.
If you would like to join the NASI Project and help solve the problem. Feel free to contact them. If you would like to be on the advisory board for them to run their various suggestions for you feedback, well I guess contact them. Frankly they don’t need the approval of the CR before exploring various options.
Suffice it to say that any and all ideas I have suggested here, are ideas that the R”Y advising NASI are hoping could possibly be implemented.
Including,
1. Adjusting the BMG Freeer to give slightly older girls and advantage,
2. Figuring out ways that (many) boys should either go to EY earlier or stay not as long,
3. Figuring out ways that girls shouldn’t rush to date the second they get off the plane (tough one at this point being that girls and families won’t listen and thus nothing along these lines has been pursued),
4. Figuring out ways to encourage shadchanim to focus on the girls that are 20+,
5. Figuring out ways to encourage boys and their parents to give serious consideration to slightly older girls (thus close to their age).