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I will contrast four real-life examples that I am aware of (tangentally), and you hopefully will understand you are all correct, but there is an additional important point which explains (somewhat) chassidish marriages.
Girl 1: Guy marries girl. Girl is completely unresponsive to hugs, etc from spouse. Guy sees that her family is similar (no warmth) and divorces. (would also include as “family” related)
Family 1: Guy marries girl. After 6 mo, they go to a Rav asking for a divorce. Rav asks why, parents of guy & girl start yelling. Rav pulls guy & girl into room, asks why. Guy & girl say nothing we can’t work out, but parents are pushing. Rav forbids children from speaking to parents for 6mo to a year, and they stay married. (in a chassish marriage, this is more abnormal, as the dating process is more the parents & less the couple)
Guy 1: Guy is told by rabbonim to go out, and marries girl. Two weeks after marriage, girl finds guy in “immoral place”, divorces guy (who seems to have done the same before marriage). She now has a son.
Guy/Girl (may be the most common?): Guy marries girl, is told girl will solve all taivah problems. Girl is not interested/willing/understanding. Guy feels he is better off trying someone else and/or starts looking around, and divorces girl.
the guy/girl example does not normally happen in the chassidish world, due to it being more insular (no good way to put it for the olam), and the woman having less independence and having to follow the husband’s lead (which makes for, in the end, a happier marriage).
Possible solution?: The boy has to know that marriage is not THE solution, but perhaps part of it, and the girls have to be taught that they can not possibly understand, since they are not boys, but still need to follow their husband’s lead.
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