Jothar, respectfully, I know this Rov and his wife, and you do not have an entire picture. I also am familiar with many of the people he has counseled, some of whom are divorced one case being where the wife worked WITH her husband. Not everything is as glatt as you believe. Leave it at that.It is very easy to blame “modern” things on fundamental problems of making shidduchim for the wrong reasons. I personally believe that this is the reason we have such a problem today.
Women have been in the work force for many many decades, working alongside of men. People have been machnisei orchim for HUNDREDS of years, and we did not see this problem the way we see it today. It is naive to think that those two factors are why so many people are behaving immorally, or getting divorced. it is far more likely that people are getting married too quickly, becoming disillusioned with what they were conditioned to think, and then thinking there is something better out there. Whether they are right or wrong about that, that is what they are thinking, and I know that for a fact from the many women who have confided in me in my own line of work (though they are not behaving in an improper manner, just are very unhappy in their marriages).
I agree with Bemused in that people sometimes become disappointed with their own lives and spouses when they see what is out there, but that can happen anywhere and at any time. If we are so worried about the workplace, then perhaps our Jewish daughters ahould not be working outside the home to support their husbands. But as long as we are teaching them that this is their role, rather than the one that Hashem designed “Kirtzono,” we will have women who eventually come to be dissatisfied with their lives. You may disagree,a s is your right, but it does not change the facts.