mybat, life is way too short to sweat the small stuff…
so she gives her opinion, you can listen or not. You can risk hurting her feelings and ask her to “butt out”.
You can ask you husband to have a heart to heart with “mommie dearest”
You are not obligated to do what she suggests – she offers her opinion, uh so what?!
As I said, life is way to short – be glad that you have a mother in law to kvetch about.