Ok, now I think I have a better picture of what is being asked. Same gender relations fundamentally eat away at the core of the “Bayis Ne’eman” whether b’Yisroel or elsewhere. Noach’s sons also had to abide by this law. When we accept as “normal” any kind of lifestyle that is not based in a typical male/female marriage, it begins to erode the concept of what Hashem wants for us. That is NOT to say, chalilah, that a single parent (by divorce or widowed) cannot raise happy children, or that even same-gender households or parenting cannot constitute a good “family,” but it is not the ideal that Hashem wants us to live, and is forbidden by the Torah, so that is reason enough to decry it.
Since we already acknowledge that this is a toeiva in His eyes, we need to distance ourselves from the idea that this is normal. It is not normal, it is an aberration to man’s nature, though a tragic one, because many same gender couples are loving and caring to each other, and are very productive members of society at large. Nonetheless, the fact that gays can raise families in a loving environment, and can be very fine people in all respects, does not mean that we have to accept their behavior as normal. Hate the sin, but love the sinner.It may be normal for THEM, but it is still a toeiva.
What if someone wanted to marry his pet? Maybe he really LOVES his dog! It would still be unnatural, against the Torah, and all the political correctness in the world does not change that. Believe me, I FEEL for people in this situation. They may not view their lives as tragic, but it is. No one would deliberately choose to be this way, but given what they feel they are, they want to live their lives as the rest of us do. I would rather pass legislation to give them a specific designation that gives them all the same rights as a married couple, but I am unalterably opposed to it being called “marriage.” I am also tired of hearing this lifestyle being compared to black and white people being allowed to marry. One has nothing to do with the other. Even though miscegenation was against the law at one time (and still is, in some states, I believe), it was a law not based on G-d’s Law, and deserved to be changed. And that is how I am guided in my life.