GAW: If people would be wiling to compensate for one date kol ha’kavood. I assume the OP discussed 3 dates because it is more likely that people would pay after 3 dates than after only one. The reason being – it is not as common to have three dates as having one date (thus it would not be as expensive). In addition far more work goes in to 3 dates than in to one date. Finally, with all the checking there are still plenty of one dates that are bombs. If the couple went out three times it certainly was NOT a bad suggestion.
The entire community would benefit because
a) far more people would redd shidduchim
b) there would be far more shidduchim redd to slightly older girls- thus alleviating the crisis at large. (SQUEAK!!)
GAW: Do only rich people hire tutors for their children (that need it). Do only rich people pay their electricians. Why is it that suddenly only rich ppl can fairly compensate the shadchanim who get their kids dates. I just don’t get it!!