Tzippi GAW:
I HAVE and Will continue to speak to Rabbonim about implementing the idea in their individual communities.
NO one can create rules.
However, it would be extremely beneficial if it became commonplace for the shadchanim to be FAIRLY compensated for their time and effort. And Tzippy the rabbonim AGREED!! Coming to a neighborhood near you.
In the initial phase (where we are now), all that can be accomplished from a change the mindset standpoint is to get people to start asking the question. That is the begining-NOT the end game.
If most people totally ignore the shadchans effort and you send flowers then yes it will be appreciated. HOWEVER much thought needs to be put into whether that is really sufficient compensation for all the time and energy that went into it.
Sorry, this is not about hakaras hatov-this is about fair compensation.