AZ:
All of your points are true.
But this is still not the best way to get the help to those who need it the most, and it very possibly will hurt them.
And adding a Chiyuv Mammon is no help (as you agreed earlier)….but if you want a non monetary “Token of Appreciation” (such as a thank you card) that sounds good to me, just like if someone tried to fix your car but couldn’t.
And yes, people have free will. If they don’t want to shaddchan anymore, so be it. I believe we will find a better person or method.
“Anyone will a child in the parsha will quickly run and beg them please please don’t……. “
I have never heard of these people(OOT?), but even so, after a week someone else will take their place or an alternative method of dating (back to the rebbetzens?) will be found. People may even marry local, or drop their demands for “the top bochur in Lakewood” (a good thing :-)What do you think happened before these shaddchanim came on the scene? People still got married. And there was “less” of a crisis (if any).