GAW: I don’t understand what
“A list with dates or money back would be better as well” means
“I know of the FT solution from” do you mean Far Rocakway solution??
I speak of appropriate compensation that should be as much a part of a normal living expenses as everything else. Why is it hurting the poor. They are paying for a service they received.
Certainly for those who absolutely can’t – they won’t- much like those who can’t don’t pay the same going rate for many other things, including paying shadchanim on a completed shidduch. But since when is the standard created by those who can’t.
Last I checked, the local grocery – who certainly is extremely helpful for those who “can’t” – they don’t discount their entire store. Nor does the electrician/plumnber/tutor etc. Why suddenly are we giving the shadchanim the cold shoulder???
Or perhaps it’s because it’s been this way that they have been taken advantage of-why rock the boat.
THAT is a unacceptable answer..
Hiring a private advocate is a whole different ballgame and those that want to (and can) should. Girls over 21 probably have enough of their own money to do it. Its a personal call. Want to help your child/yourself get married hire someone who can help. Sounds like a plan to me.