Jphone: So now the question
Why don’t shadchanim just ask for it straight out?
For the same reason why even when they complete a shidduch they don’t make any specific requests, and they certainly don’t say up front what they charge if it goes through.
Why do you think they don’t??
I’ll give you a hint.
1. Read this blog and take a hint how shadchanim are thought of
2. They are not businessman. They don’t do it to make money. That’s not to say they don’t deserve and expect to get paid. Thus they get stepped on.
Just yesterday I was speaking to a well known shadchan who has recently COMPLETED more than 8 shidduchim that’s more than 16 families.
How many of them have been so kind as to give shadchanus???
NOT even Five
You think every shidduch that goes through gives shadchanu????
All I’m asking is that everyone should honestly ask the question. And the questin needs to be asked for 3/4 dates NOT just for engagements.
The original poster threw out an arbitrary amount, nothing hard and fast.
Why are we taking such advantage?????
Why are we so selfish???