Tzippi: It’s nice that from your arm chair you make up pie charts. As you so eloquently wrote, It is silly.
Besides for that, closing the age gap is not a contradiction to anyone of your subjective concepts (other than the fact that it is eminently more achievable).
youdontknowme: I don’t know aries2756. I don’t think anyone is telling shadchanim to NOT redt a shiddcuh if they are more than two years apart. But people redding shidduchim should definitely make an effort to keep the ages close as much as they can.
Is that something you are comfortable with.