And what about all the young men still in full time learning who would leave if they could? And they wouldn’t leave for the streets. They’re 25+, want to finish school, work, learn 1 – 2 sedarim a day, but noooo, the type of decent BY girls they want won’t have them. (And on the flip side, what about the girls who would look for that, if THEY had permission to?)
This isn’t a parents/kids dichotomy, it’s the parents AND kids vs. society one.
And no, I don’t believe the system’s failed if there’s a bachur who would voluntarily leave the beis medrash a nanosecond before he has to.